The 11/11 Getting Happy and Well for Christmas

I decided to share some easy, daily lifestyle tips with you, as we arrive to Christmas, in just 11 days, and shortly after into 2015.  So that we may make this Christmas and New Year Season light, fun, and filled with life energy. 


Stress is among the top 5 things people mention they are experiencing most these days.  Most are simply stressed and stretched beyond limits.  They are drained, weak, lack energy, don't have time for anything.  Only thinking about adding another thing on top, makes them lose their marbles. What to do?
Move.

I know, you don't have the time.  Most people, including me, do not.  Especially not to exercise.  The only solution is prioritizing movement, putting it on the schedule.  Like you would a hair appointment, a doctor's appointment, kids' school play, and so on.  

11/11 is MOVE


Move your body.  Move the energy.  Transfer it from stuck to expended. 

Here are some ways I found worked to create time, and make it happen:

-Wake up 30 minutes earlier, before anything; just get it done
-Find a friend and commit together
-That treadmill or elliptical machine at home, dust it off, remove the clothes you piled on it (after all it is not a hamper-hanger), hop on for 15-30 minutes, first thing in the morning
-Instead of sitting at your work-desk, use a FitDesk, to make calls, Skype, etc, or when spending more time on the computer 
-Have a ton of calls to complete?  Bundle up, and do some of the call while walking outside for 10, 20 even 30 minutes
-Identify the time period in your days, when the stress tends to climb highest.  Schedule lunch, or a 15 min break, around it.  Enforce every day, twice every day even, if needed, and take it outside of your work environment. Go for a walk, go outside, get fresh air, move your body, air things out.  When you return, all the to-do's will be easier to complete
-Don't sit in traffic while commuting to and from work.  Leave earlier or stay later, find a yoga studio near the office, do a class, avoid traffic drive when it is easier to commute. Or take the train, and stand at least half way


In closing, remember.  While it is ideal to have a regular exercise regime, when life calls for pulling out all stops, it is time to get creative. If you are unhealthy, stagnant, your thoughts, emotions, body, will all work as such too.  In turn, this same is repeated in your choices, your entire life, relationships and even business.  It will all reflect this.

For more lifestyle tips follow to my portal, www.monikakovacs.com.

11/11 is MOVE

Merry Christmas and Happy Holy-Days of every kind, Here's one way

If you feel drawn, let it enter your Being, releasing any old ideas of constriction or limitation and returning Your true essence as expansive, radiant Light.

"Divine Beloved, Change Me into someone
who can give with complete ease and abundance,
knowing You are the unlimited Source of All.

Let me be an easy open conduit for Your prosperity.
Let me trust that all of my own needs are
always met in amazing ways
and it is safe to give freely as my heart guides me.

And equally, please Change Me into someone
who can feel wildly open to receiving.
Let me know my own value, beauty and
worthiness without question.
Let me allow others the supreme pleasure of giving to me.
Let me feel worthy to receive in every possible way.

And let me extend kindness to all who need,
feeling compassion and understanding
in even the hardest situations.

Change me into One who can fully love, forgive
and accept myself... so I may carry your Light
without restriction.

Let everything that needs to go, go.
Let everything that needs to come, come.
I am utterly Your own.

You are Me.
I am You.
We are One.

All is well.

toshasilver©2013

How to Holiday Eat

This is my take on Holiday Eating. I see nothing wrong with eating with family, company and at the same table eating the same foods. I LOVE Holiday eating.  Every setting will have:

Turkey: pure meat
Veggies: prepped in different ways, I am sure you can get creative to keep it clean and lean
Starches (good ones): a small serving is good
Gravy: I hope I do not have to go there, we don't want it to come here....
Stuffing: I am sure we can live without it....who wants GMO and glue gunk in their intestines anyways....yukkkkk
Salad: of course

Pie, desserts etc: I am sure if you kept it clean a little treat after dinner, wait a while, don't stuff it all in at once, will NOT hinder your progress.  All assuming you have been sanely eating up to this feast.  If not, that is a whole different ballgame I get it. I am human too, learned the best way, on my own skin....through my own journey to and from the self.

The leftovers are great, again, treat it like real food, yourself with respect and love.

Remember when you love something, you care for it, you protect it.  Stuffing yourself sick, and eating fast is not love for food, nor treating yourself.
Enjoy what you Eat.

xo

Szerelem

Erren nincs magyarazat.
Ebben nincs ertelem.
Ez csak van.
Ezt ugy hivjak,
Szerelem.

~MK

Your Fortune

I believe that our fortune is in our hearts,
It was placed there by God,
Sparked lit by our greatest Dreams,
Fuelled by our Passion, 
Willed into life, brought to completion, by Us.
Our Divine potential is a given,
What we choose to make of it, is left entirely up to Us.
Change your body, change your LIFE. 


www.truestar.tv




This is your life, what are you doing with it? 

If you love it, let it go, If it comes back …..

I am a Wellness Consultant with TRUESTAR Health, home of the Leading Online Healthy Lifestyle Resource, the #1 Ranked vitamins and natural supplements.  I first began with this company, working as a Personal Health Advisor, in 2006, when they operated within various retail locations.  I coached people through their journeys to better health, using the TRUESTAR system, combined with my own Personal Training services.  It was all I could ask for, and some.  I was doing what I loved.  I never worked a minute.  I simply got to spend time clients, sharing my knowledge, learn something new every day, and change lives.  It was amazing to have seen 100’s of committed individuals pushing through to weight-loss victories, amazing bodies, lives transformed.

There was especially one client I adored working with.  She was the Student every coach dreams of.   I will call her Kathy to respect her privacy.  I remember Kathy first coming in to our initial consultation, with all her 4’9, meaning business like I have never seen anyone before.  She signed up for my biggest packages in everything.  She was hungry.  She knew what she wanted; she was focused, open, willing, and ready to go.  Her and I had a 42-week contract.  She never missed a beat.  She never whined.  She was always grateful.  She was honest, and very open.  She shared her struggles, her joys; she shared what she could not shake, her fears and more.  She started to come alive.

Besides all the above, she worked HARD!!!!!  She showed up ready, she trusted.  She changed her life; she also lost 50 lbs.  My favorite part, as I am such a girl and stylist, I started to see her changing her outfits.  She started wearing skirts and more feminine pieces, not to mention her sweet smile of joy, and eyes of sparkle became permanent on her face.  There was so much gratitude, and the strength that can only come from KNOWING she had earned it.  As the fruits of her effort unfolded, she never stopped going for it.  This woman was unbelievable.

I had to I relocate, end that line of work, and leave my clientele behind.  My prime focus became my Private Personal Training business catering to high level performers and executives stay at home wives and mommies.  This transition, while exciting, made it difficult to part from my clients, and friendships.  I had no access to company database, hence I always wondered and missed many of my besties from the past :)

Fast Forward to 2012, February 25, 2012.  I am still a TRUESTAR Girl, and represent the best of the best, as a Wellness Consultant.  After the Saturday morning training + meeting, I had an inner push to call my mother and suggest a visit.  She wanted to meet with me mid-way, but something told me to drive out ‘to’ her farm.  It was a gorgeous Sunny winter afternoon, and I love visiting the country on a day like that.  It is like God was talking to me all while driving, I was listening to a book on audio, that seemed to have guided this entire drive and experience.

As a personal note, I am a book warm, I love to read and listen to books.  I love to learn and spend a ton of time on bettering myself, also to work on my command of the English language.  During my drive, I was listening to my latest and greatest find, which was really an almost divine slap on my face, as I was not getting the first gentle nudges, that tried to guide me to read it.  Enter SPIRIT JUNKIE--a hip new book, I was guided to get my hands on through audible.  I soaked it up ip in two days.  It was clearly ‘for me’ and for ‘a purpose’ unknown to me at the time of my purchase.  The book is based on A Course in Miracles (ACIM), a self-study curriculum that aims to assist its readers in achieving spiritual transformation.  I have been wishing to own a copy of ACIM for long, but could never put my hands on it.

As I arrived to the country, I was filled with peace.  The book I was listening to, SPIRIT JUNKIE, was really getting into those dark areas of my psyche that, needed to be opened. 

I am known to, what I call, ‘clever-task.’  I do not like sitting, not to mention, work, in one place.  Over time, I learned to get my work done wherever I happened to fancy positioning my yogic behind.  Since I am usually on the go, my tasks get done in creative ways. 

As I arrived to my mom’s farm, I had a couple of conference calls to attend to.  While waiting on these, and mom to get ready, I got online to see, if the local bookstore may have carried ACIM.  They did; I put it on hold.  As a side note, both ACIM and SPIRIT JUNKIE had been books I was nudged about, since I first learned of them.  I ignored all of these of course, until these nudges, and the circumstances of acquiring them, became too clear and inevitable.

When mom and I finally got back into the city, we had a plan where we would go first etc.  I wanted to pick up my book, ACIM, so that was first (seriously, can I be more of a child).  While at the store, I also wanted to pick up the current book I was listening to, in paperback (when I love a book a lot, I do this).  As I looked for my prey on the shelves, without success, I turned to walk towards the computers to do a search, and get myself properly allocated.  As I begin to make my way to the computer, I spotted a short lady, in store uniform.  I recognized the face, the glasses.  I knew her, but have not yet registered the identity.  Then it was clear, it was she; the one I never forgot, the face I have missed for 5 years.  The client I always remembered with so much gratitude, Kathy!!!  I could not believe my eyes.  We got excited, caught up.  She also met my mom, told her about our amazing journey together (FYI, my mom still thinks I do a cross between aerobics in pastel spandex, Jane Fonda style, mixed with some yogic moves). 

Kathy briefly shared her personal struggle and frustration since we parted ways.  I.e. how she did not find inspiration, nor support in the people who came after me.  Her body also took another downward spiral.  We re-established contact, and became beyond eager to reconnect and embark once again on a new journey to self-love, and multi-dimensional transformation.  Just before we parted, after all she was at work…oups, I asked her to assist me finding the book I wanted to get, SPIRIT JUNKIE, one of the ‘reasons’ I went in there.  Kathy, also felt the same book calling to her, and she put a copy aside for herself as well.

As mom and I left the bookstore, I had an uneasy pinch of the minus 14-Celsius outside. I suggested a coffee break.  While in line at the cafe, a lady, who stood in line, overheard our admiration of the gorgeous cakes and desserts.  We started talking and instantly clicked.  A short conversation of caloric-guilt, quickly lead to an exchange on weight loss, what I do, and of course TRUESTAR Health.  My new friend, Amy, emphasized that, ‘her ways’ were different from the conventional.  I.e. she saw body transformation as having a strong spiritual basis.  I pointed at the blue book in my hand.  We locked eyes; we both knew we were ‘meant to meet.’  Amy left to sit with her cupcake, we also took our spot.  In a few minutes, Amy tapped my shoulder.  She came over on her way out, to ensure she’d given me her name, also, affirming that, she would look forward to reconnecting and embarking on a quest of working on her spirit and body with me.

Mom and I continued our afternoon, and ended up at a COSTCO.  Of course no Saturday afternoon with mom would be complete without COSTCO :)   As we filled our cart, another TRUESTAR blast from the past, another Monika + Past client Reunion, praising the fruitful work of the past, to mom, who at this point was beaming like a light ball, still picturing her daughter in pastel purple spandex doing the grape-wine, popping the TRUESTAR vitamins. 

It was an unplanned day filled with miracles; or was it?  Were the events shared really miracles, or merely life’s summoning of itself into existence, uninterrupted? i.e. as it happens, when we step out of our own way?  I finished listening to SPIRIT JUNKIE by the time I made it home that evening.  Looking back, it was so clear to me, based on the story the author shared that, everything that, I had experienced, beyond TRUESTAR, SPIRIT JUNKIE, ACIM, have been life’s ways, to get me to where I had been heading all these years.  The lessons, the struggles, the nudges, the slaps, the joys, the sorrows, the losses, the rebirths have all served a purpose to, and of, this point.  It all began many years ago, when I was an over-weight teenager...

The body is a journey of mysteries.  What you do with it is up to you; accept assistance on your way from spirit, a coach, who can easily become a close friend and mentor you will guide you on this journey, and so much more…

PS – always leave room for miracles…..

Your love IS your World

EVERYTHING about you spreads your love.

It beings in your intention.
It transfers through your emotion.
It is present in your thoughts.
It appears in your words.
It creates your actions, hence,
It shapes your experiences.......

Your love creates your world.

-MK

What are you afraid of.......

“The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” 
– Michelangelo (1475-1564)

I was moved by poetry.........

hourglass :: a last love poem

i loved you
as much as i could
as long as i could
hard as i could
hard as it was

steadily holding on
to the small piece of maybe
that was finally destroyed

i have done all i can

we came together
in our respective corners
at the bottom of an hourglass
with our own strengths
our own wounds

marriage is to be found
in the voyage
through the tiny neck
of this timepiece

crossing up and over
to the opposite quadrants
those qualities of the other
missing in ourselves
are to be absorbed
for each to become whole

my love
hard as we tried
we simply did not make it
through the passage
the wounds too deep
the rage too loud
the voice too silent

and though i love you
i cannot be
married to you
i lost myself
in the giving of everything
to you

i now know
heartbreak in one
is a pain
unable to be healed
by the other

we can only
heal ourselves

for months
i have been nowhere
and everywhere
wheeling my home behind me
into the havens of others
now i need to land safely
inside the space of my own

i was starving to death
before hunger finally saved my life
waking me to desire

and now you are
free from the wanting more
than i could give
and i will love you
beyond the wound

~ from Writing for My Life…Reclaiming the Lost Pieces of Me: A Poetic Journey by Nancy Levin

The Secret to having a GREAT day

When I am having a less than GREAT day, it is because somewhere, somehow, I forgot to be kind to myself.  Think about it.  If  your kids make you mad on a given day, easier and faster than they normally would, if you pause and retract, it is very likely, that you will find, that you have shortcut yourself, one way, or another, leading up to your most recent experiences.

If your lover seems less-loving, or, if  you feel less drawn to them, it is likely, that you put yourself after something, or someone, less important than you, prior to the personal experience you have had.  Hence you feel the love cut off in your current encounter.  This is true, even if you have overlooked your lover behaving in a less than loving way, towards you.  That in turn, resulted in your feeling hurt at the present moment.  The source of the present pain came about, because your self-love was under valued to something outside of yourself.

If at work, your satisfaction tipped towards the lower end of the scale, it is also likely due to the fact that, you guessed, you have let yourself come, best case scenario, second, or worse.

Always, in any encounter, choose you [first].  Be kind to you [first]; and watch the world be unconditionally kind to you in return.  A great book to check out to learn more, or to enhance this process is, 'LOVING WHAT IS' by Byron Katie: 

Thought of the day ........

I think I am ready to let this go.
I am ready to let this be.
No pressure.
No deadline.
Nothing like that.
I am ready to let this go;
Let it be whatever it may be.
No holding back.
No pressure.
No navigation.
No manipulation....
I am ready to begin to let this happen.
It is not my job to make it happen.
My job is to hold the awareness, respect the awareness.
The rest is up to You.

YOU CAN create an exceptional LIFE

For countless people, the words of Louise Hay have served as a beacon, leading them out of the darkness of despair and into the light of a better life. Cheryl Richardson is one of the many individuals whom Louise has greatly influenced . . . before going on to become a best-selling author herself. 

So what happens when these two combine their collective wisdom into one book? 
The result is what you're now holding in your hands. As Louise and Cheryl engage in a series of empowering and intimate conversations, you'll feel as if you're simultaneously having lunch with your best friends and also attending a master class put on by two leaders of the self-empowerment movement. 

As they travel throughout North America and Europe together, Louise and Cheryl discuss a wide range of topics, including the importance of loving ourselves and our bodies; aging consciously; bringing true prosperity and abundance to the world; manifesting positive relationships-both with family and friends and in the workplace; and facing death in a dignified and peaceful way. 

These two amazing women are living proof that the spiritual principles they discuss in these pages really work. As you read, you'll discover that you, too, have the ability to create an exceptional life! 

A woman's worth

I had, what I'd call a spark of an eye-opening moment of truth, yesterday.  I was walking in nature, like I often do, contemplating the different physical appearances of people.  I.e. the bodies, what they reflect, what I can read when I look at a person's body (including my own), personal beliefs, self/body image etc.  As it is known, my journey to my diverse activities today, all started due to being 50+ lbs over weight 10+ years ago.  Yes.   Since I can recall, I always battled with the pounds, feeling good, believing I was beautiful, knowing I was in healthy shape, most importantly, that what I looked like was NOT necessarily equal to my actual worth, as a person, and so much more.

Fitness, beauty, wellness, health are not over-night changes, or the matter of switching things ON, or OFF.  These are all life-long refining of what we believe about ourselves, that changes daily, as we go.  Whose cumulative effects only can be seen when one reflects on one's journey.

Having said that, I have not always done the healthiest, most perfect practices, to try to 'measure up' to the expectations of the world I lived in, and hence created.  However, as I knew better, I have always done better.  This has never been more true, than now.  I realized this yesterday, through my own body, and my reflection on my own journey through and with it.  The beauty of it all is, that at this time of my life, I am in better shape, physically, and spiritually, than at any of the times I was competing, on stage, in the spot-light, and so on.  The reason for that is, that I now do all of what I do, for me, the highest within me!!!!  Not for reasons outside of me; i.e. a competition, an appearance, a photo shoot, someone else, who may have been displeased with me, my appearance, etc.  Trust me, of those, there had been many.

At this time in my life, I do it all, and more, for me.  I spend my time being closer, and closer to my bliss, and actually creating that.  It is a slow, and details process of amazing transformation what I am about and who I am being and becoming.  It is the intertwining perfectionist dance of the past, and the present; some hesitance, and a lot of courageous moving forth into the unknown life has to offer.  Hence, as I allow, I meet amazing people, and enclose in my heart, more, and more amazing experiences.

Knowing that no matter what I had to endure at certain points of my life, no matter how hard it seemed at times, all served me to gather and gain a lot of self worth.  All those experiences as I am learning of myself today, have made me stronger, better, have taught me to expect more and more of myself, and not to put up with anything, or anyone less, than what makes me happy.

For the world another's appearance, may only be captured as a pretty face, a sexy body, a beautiful picture.  Unless you can see the whole picture of one's being,  you will never know how remarkable a person truly IS, as a whole.

xo
Monika

Powerful Beyond Measure

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

From the book, 

"A Return to Love," by Marianne Williamson

     

Real Love + Money

As I watch a documentary on the Royal couples, and their underlying values, as those are acted out into real life, a thought came to mind.  These couples are beautiful to look at, and have a very strong sense of relational basis, few can relate to.  NONE of such values shared within these couples, result from games, and fear based prenups, and other drama.  They are all about self-resepct acted out, due-diligence and time taken to know who the other is, and what they themselves wanted; yes even into the sexual and monetary aspect of their joint lives.

Gorgeous girl.  Handsome, and classy guy. Not only the entire country backs them up.  But the entire world is inspired by their truth, their love, the wealth and quality of life they are committed to living and creating together.

Here is to Royal Love and Money.  It is possible.  Why accept less!

xo
Monika